If you have listened to Katy Perry’s more recent music, you probably instantly thought of the song that she released back in June when you read this blog title. I’d be lying if I said that that song doesn’t hit me right in the feels. It’s low-key been on repeat for the past couple days.
You know when you’re tired and emotional and it’s 2 in the morning and you have a mushy text all typed out to someone you know you shouldn’t start a conversation with, and you just sit there, maybe crying, re-reading what you have written, but then you hit the back button and “save as draft”? That is precisely the moment that this post is about. And if that has ever been you, or if that is you right now, keep reading.
It is so easy to act on pure emotion, especially late at night, when your mind races and you overthink. We’ve all been there, we just don’t all talk about it.
For me, it’s an ex, and an ex best friend. I so badly wanna reach out to them, or as Katy Perry says, “throw a line to you”. But at the same time, I know that it isn’t the best decision for me, because there is a reason that we stopped talking in the first place. Right? I mean yeah, sometimes there are situations where you do need to reach out, but I think you know that’s not what I’m talking about. I’m talking about that ex who hurt you, that best friend who stabbed you in the back, the guy who used you, the situations you know are toxic in your life.
The phrase that comes after “throw a line” in Katy Perry’s song is, “But I should let sleeping ducks lie, because I know better baby.” AND FRIENDS THIS IS THE IMPORTANT PART. It is so crucial, because if you know better, you do better. I know you’ve heard that from a parental figure in your life at some point. Let me put it this way, if you were able to get out of a emotionally manipulative, destructive, toxic relationship, why would you want to go back? “What good would it do to re-open the wound?”
I promise you that there are people who care and are there for you, and you do not need to go back to the people who hurt you. And I understand the feeling of wanting to know how someone is doing, having the desire to know if they are okay. But don’t act like you aint creepin’, we all do it. And that is as close as you should get, because that can even turn toxic if you start to obsess over it.
So, with all that said, I hope that you don’t text them tonight. Don’t go back to the people that hurt you, instead turn to Jesus to help you let go of them. (And letting go does not mean forgetting, at all.) So, “take a deep breath, and ‘save as draft’”.
Lots of love,