Things Change . . .

So, for those who don’t know, I went through a messy breakup over a year and a half ago.  I wrote a little bit about it in a post a while ago if you’re interested in reading it.  I’m not going to write the same stuff all over in this post, so don’t click away just yet.

I’ve changed so much since my breakup, and just wanted to share some thoughts and advice if you will, for anyone who might be struggling through the same situation I went through then or just simply anyone who has been hurt in a relationship.  It took me a really long time to fully let go of my ex, and honestly I never thought that I would be where I am today.  I am in an incredible relationship with a man I love, a man who loves me with a crazy kind-of love, and I couldn’t be happier.  But with all that said, of course there are days when my ex on my mind, days like today.  Things still remind me of him, and a piece of me will never stop loving him. 

I often feel guilty for thinking about my previous boyfriend, because of my own personal struggles and because it doesn’t feel “fair” to the man I am with now.  But I am beyond blessed in that he will listen to me for hours on end, and just be there for me, no matter what. I am so thankful that God gave me him.  But back to what I was saying, I think the most important lesson I have taken away from my breakup was learning the hard way, that I am stronger than I thought I was, and that it’s okay to still miss someone who hurt you. 

If you can relate to anything I have said this far, please really listen to this . . .

You are 100% allowed to miss someone who hurt you.  You are allowed to miss an ex, and you can absolutely handle the situation you’re in, in the way you feel is best.  But with that said, it is so important to have a support system and to listen to what they have to say.  Sometimes calling your ex or whoever, at 2am isn’t the best idea.  You have to balance your emotions and be able to be rational.  Sometimes you could be doing something that only hurts yourself, and you can’t see that, which is why it is so important to bring people in and to talk to them.

I am in a place now, where I can genuinely say that I am thankful for the heartbreak I went through.  Maybe you’re not there yet, and that it so okay, because I promise one day you will be.  God uses pain in the most unexpected and incredible ways, for me, it made me a better person, it made me love more, and most importantly, it pushed me to cling more tightly to God. 

So whatever pain and heartache you might be going through, hang in there, I promise it doesn’t last forever, things change.  I am here for you always, and I would love to talk to you, DM me!

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